You’re Doing It Wrong: Being a Great Mom Starts with Self-Care


Being a mom is a challenging task that often lacks rewards or praise. We are often trying to balance our time between taking care of the family, the household, balancing the cheque book and paying bills that it has become so easy to neglect our own needs.

This last year has been particularly difficult for my family and until now I didn’t have the time or the energy to stop and breath and am now so overwhelmed with a rush of emotions that I can barely keep my head above water.  For the longest time, I thought that the only way to push through and survive these feelings was to focus all of my time and energy on my family.

I was very wrong. I am ashamed to admit this but recently I have found that I have an incredibly short fuse with most people, including my own children. Now more than ever, I needed to focus on me and my own needs.  I’m not a selfish person and taking time to care for yourself is such a necessary action. After all, who will be there to take care of everything when you are depleted, depressed or buried too deep in a hole that you can’t see the light anymore.

It all started when I realized that I was useless to my family if I couldn’t stand on my own. How could I be expected to take care of anyone else when I couldn’t be bothered to care myself? It’s not rocket-science, I mean seriously, they even announce on airplanes that in case of disaster out your own air mask on before assisting anyone else.

If you are anything like me, you might not even realize that you are neglecting your own needs. Make the conscience decision to evaluate yourself, this may include your physical health, emotional state and even your mental health. You are important and you are valuable. It’s time to find the desire and to invest in some hard work in caring for yourself first.

I know there are not enough hours in a day to get even the basic of things done, and now I’m asking you to find some time for yourself.   To help you on your way, I wanted to share my tips and trick for finding time for you.

  1. Take A Bath


In the last few weeks, I’ve found myself enjoying a nice hot bath with bubbles. Find your favorite scent for bubble bath, light up some candles, play some soft music and relax. Let your mind escape for a few moments.


  1. Say No


Do not take on more than you can handle. You are not selfish for knowing your limits and it’s perfectly acceptable to say no every once in a while.


  1. Listen To Music

I often use music as an escape from this world. I love putting on my favorite music and having a little dance session in the privacy of my own bedroom. Load up an iPod or any electronic device with all your favorite songs and just get lost in the music.  I’m often interrupted after a couple of songs by children wanting to join in on the party and I don’t mind it has often been great family fun.


  1. Get Some Sleep


I know this is easier said than done, especially if you are like me and suffer from insomnia most nights. My advice is to get sleep anyway and anytime that you can. It doesn’t have to be at night time. You can sleep in for an extra 15 minutes on the weekend or grab an afternoon nap.  Even just a few minutes of extra sleep will have you more energized and feeling much more rested.


  1. Have Alone Time


I’m not suggesting that you go crazy and wild for an entire weekend or even a day. Try to find 30 minutes each day for time to be alone. This can be first thing in the morning, on your lunch break at work or even right before bedtime. Take 30 minutes and go over your daily schedule, or review what you accomplished today and think about what tomorrow will hold.


I am profile-pica full-time working, potty-mouthed and tempered, home-cooking, thrift-finding thirty-something mom on a budget. I am married and have two children, a tween and a teenager. Life is great. I blog to share our personal life experiences and adventures in parenting.


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